Everyone has a past. For some, theirs become baggage that must remain sealed. For others, it is an open book that can be glanced at once in a while with a nostalgic smile for events long past.
When I look back into my past sometimes I smile and shake my head in disbelief at the incidents I recall. At other times I just want to dig it up, take it to china, bury it and forget it ever happened. We all have something in our past that we want to forget or pretend never happened; if you don’t have one of such experiences, count yourself lucky and I just have to ask ‘What planet are you from?’.
Dealing with the past has never been an easy thing and if you are like me, sometimes you make that one event/occurrence your permanent residence. Trust me, I know the feeling. Living in the past is easy cos you can right the wrongs, edit conversations and live happily ever after in there but again that’s not a healthy alternative. The longer you stay there, the harder it will become for you to rejoin the rest of the unhappy humans.
So this is my fun list for dealing and overcoming whatever baggage is going to become your past.
No matter what anyone says, crying is good for you just don’t overdo it. Have a good self pitying and cleansing cry to get the bitterness and hurt out of your system.
Feed the anger. You are permitted just this once to binge eat on ice cream and any other junk food. Comfort food is good for a grieving heart.
Ok, the pity party is over, so cleanse yourself of every item that can trigger a negative emotional response. Burn, trash and discard everything. Forget nostalgia and move on. Make it fun; call your best friends in to help with the cleansing process.
Sanity
Think positive thoughts and get out of your head. Dying is not worth it and if it was a dude responsible for the pain, the asshole isn’t worth it either. You’re precious and beautiful and good things lie ahead for you.
Jokes aside, your past is a part of who you are and the decisions you take in trying to deal with incidents in that universe in your head will go a long way in shaping your future. Its not healthy to deport these incidents to Somali cos they have a way of sneaking back into your country when you least expect.
The healthy option is to Forgive and Forget.
Forgetting is part of forgiveness and it means letting go of the incident et al from your heart and your head. You’ll be the better and healthier for it. really, that’s some heavy load to be dragging around for the rest of your life.
Forgive yourself first and foremost because we spend most of our lives blaming ourselves for our roles in creating the situations that have led to these hurtful pasts. Without forgiving yourself, forgiving the situation or the offenders will be most difficult.
In your forgiveness however, be smart enough not to trust them suckers again. ©
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