Friday, February 28, 2014

Doing The Two-Step



 

Being in a relationship is like doing a 2-step dance; it requires a little give and a little go. Standing still would mean you get stepped on a lot and moving out of tune would probably see you slip, slide or worse, fall.
With each dance comes its sets of rules - the right posture and stance, the number of counts preceding a movement, the direction and movement of the hips and arms - the list is endless; and just like dance, relationships are governed by its own sets of rules. 

Each partner has a role to play in ensuring every move is executed flawlessly and no one leaves the dance floor injured. 

Women expect to be wooed and pampered while men are naturally inclined to lead and pursue, the same applies to dance, the man must lead.

The Role of The Man
On the dance floor, he’s in charge. He leads by gently nudging his partner to move where and how he wants. His subtle cues set the tone and pace of the dance. His touch is respectful and he makes it a point to avoid causing injuries to his partner.

The Role of The Woman
There’s a saying in the military ‘Obey the last command’ and for the lady on the dance floor, the onus is upon her to follow, no matter what. Wrestling power from the man isn’t an option however trust is a necessity when she steps into the arms of her partner. She needs to be attentive to the gentle nudges from her partner and know what each cue means.

The Role of Music
Just like dance, each relationship is tuned to a particular rhythm and both partners must be willing to dance to the music.
Music determines the pace and style. Partners must choose and agree on the music and style beforehand; it is imperative that the genre of the song and the dance itself be in sync. It can be problematic when the music is suited for a waltz and one partner wants to salsa all the way. Agreement creates an enabling environment for the execution of a harmonized and enjoyable dance routine. 


Each relationship must appreciate and respect its peculiarities and adapt the dance step to its rhythm. 

Remember, being the best dance team requires constant practice; it takes work to produce the synchronized routine.


2 comments:

  1. Relationships are a dance like you say; yes indeed, the dance never stops, even if u end up with that person. We all come with a lot of crap and no one is close to perfect at all......some people are tender but unambitious, some people are driven but insensitive, some are nice but loquacious, the only kind of dance i feel anyone should give up on is a dance that involves violence, otherwise every other bullsh**t we should adapt to handle, as relationships are like iron sharpening iron everyday, its never easy. Let the dances continue dear...

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  2. Yes no relationshipis easy and no two relationships are thesame. Eac dance is just as peculiar and the two dancers involved. Both have agree together and dance to the rhythm in other to make it work. It take s team work to make the dream work

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