Being in a relationship is
like doing a 2-step dance; it requires a little give and a little go. Standing
still would mean you get stepped on a lot and moving out of tune would probably
see you slip, slide or worse, fall.
With each dance comes its sets of rules - the right posture
and stance, the number of counts preceding a movement, the direction and
movement of the hips and arms - the list is endless; and just like dance,
relationships are governed by its own sets of rules.
Each partner has a role to play in ensuring every move is
executed flawlessly and no one leaves the dance floor injured.
Women expect to be wooed and pampered while men are
naturally inclined to lead and pursue, the same applies to dance, the man must
lead.
The
Role of The Man
On the dance floor, he’s in charge. He leads by gently
nudging his partner to move where and how he wants. His subtle cues set the
tone and pace of the dance. His touch is respectful and he makes it a point to
avoid causing injuries to his partner.
The
Role of The Woman
There’s a saying in the military ‘Obey the last command’ and
for the lady on the dance floor, the onus is upon her to follow, no matter
what. Wrestling power from the man isn’t an option however trust is a necessity
when she steps into the arms of her partner. She needs to be attentive to the
gentle nudges from her partner and know what each cue means.
The
Role of Music
Just like dance, each relationship is tuned to a particular
rhythm and both partners must be willing to dance to the music.
Music determines the pace and style. Partners must choose
and agree on the music and style beforehand; it is imperative that the genre of
the song and the dance itself be in sync. It can be problematic when the music
is suited for a waltz and one partner wants to salsa all the way. Agreement
creates an enabling environment for the execution of a harmonized and enjoyable
dance routine.
Each relationship must appreciate and respect its
peculiarities and adapt the dance step to its rhythm.
Remember, being the best dance team requires constant practice;
it takes work to produce the synchronized routine.
